"We, the ones then, are not the same." Pablo Neruda
Who has not felt fear of developing any type of dementia?
Dementias can be scarier than cancer or death itself, because it robs us of what we are and makes us vulnerable, fragile and dependent.
Because it is a life condition, a long illness where we lose the ability to connect with ourselves and with others. We are left without a map of the world and of life and we cannot stand for ourselves. This creates an enormous terror and pain, both for the sufferer and the family.
Some patients who have RECENTLY been DIAGNOseD with dementia come to see me because they know that high levels of stress hormones can accelerate the loss of their memory. They also want to help themselves and make a plan.
For them it is important to talk about their emotions, worries, without worrying their family. This does them good.
Caregivers, on the other hand, live an ambiguous loss, because their loved one is physically present, but is no longer mentally or emotionally present. It is not what they used to be. This condition changes the dynamics of the relationship.
Dementias are living conditions that affect your environment, your life, and your community. They are long and degenerative diseases, which generate a lot of stress, overwhelm, impotence, anger, love, fear, guilt, and even resentment.
There are caregivers who think they can do it without help, they are strong, but it is not about being strong, it is about being realistic.
We feel so helpless when someone who we love suffers, if we cannot do anything to alleviate their suffering. We feel overwhelmed. We are stressed and this affects our health and the relationship with the rest of the family, our concentration and work. In addition, the constant feeling of uncertainty, causes emotional tiredness and numbness.
TakING CAre of the CarREgIvERs
We do an initial work of 2 sessions, which can be repeated during the course of the disease since new challenges will emerge.
The goal is the caragiver, so he can
develop skills and learn tools to respond to symptoms, instead of reacting to the individual or emotions.
These are easier when you understand better what the disease consists of, you have therapeutic tools to calm your nervous system and NOT GET OVERWHELMEND.
Book a session Thank you for letting me be part of the solution.
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